It isn't just what we ask for but also how. This cute story is a great example.
The wife came home from a trip and found that her husband had give all her pound cakes away.
She baked them for people in nee, or just needed a lift in their life.
So she asked here Ivy school Professor of a husband to go the the store.
"But I have a badminton game."
It's just a few items.
"Well as long as I can go through the express line." So off he goes with her list.
He was gone a long time and she was starting to wonder when he walked in with 4 bags...2 in each hand.
Before she could as what he bought, "There is more in the car" and out he went. She was wondering as there were only 7 items. She looked in the bag and found 1 1 pound of butter.
Then there was, 2 bottles of vanilla. Next 3 dozen eggs. But she only needed six and this made no sense. The husband came in and dropped a couple more bags on the floor,,
"There's more" and out he went.
Very confused she looked in the nest bag. 4 1 pound bags of sugar.
Oh no she thought...the next bag had 5 1 pound bags of sugar. Then he came in and she was afraid to open the last bags. 6 5 pound cartons of lard. At that point she knew what had happened and she opened the last two bags...7 six packs of 7 up.
"What in the world are you going to do with all of this" he asked...
Well dear...The seven items on the list was supposed to be (1) of each. The one through 7 on the list was just the number of the item on the list.
Basically, something so simple caused a great deal of stress. She had never numbered the items on the list for him before.
We ask for things all the time and many times we don't get exactly what we want. We need to be clear especially when dealing with our clients.